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Shhhh, I've come to see Pocket
Posted 9:20 AM on Wed-3-Aug-2011
Would I be a bad person if I said there was a child I didn't like? Don't get me wrong, of course all kids are lovely, our future, blah blah, yadda yadda, but there is this one kid at Pocket's daycare who I am becoming more and more anti as the weeks roll by.

The little child in question is a good friend of Pocket, but I think they are lacking attention at home. The mother is a career woman, and at face glance is fairly self centered, up with the in crowd, money to burn, talks to you if none of her friends are looking, but snobs you if anyone can see her talking to you.

Now, I don't for a second hold this against the girl, but the problem is, this lack of attention quite clearly being given at home, makes for a very needed child. I'm not sure if it's because I am Pocket's Mum or if she does this to every parent who arrives to collect their child from daycare, but man alive, talk about get swamped! Pocket is busy trying to tell me all about something she's done and here's this other kid butting in, vying for my attention too. If it was only once in a while, it wouldn't be so bad, but every day, it is starting to do my head in. I don't want to dislike her, but come on child, tug on your own mothers leg, it's lovely to see you, but I couldn't give a rats about your scribbly painting, I want to see Pockets artwork!

Maybe I should take it as a compliment that I'm a lovely Mum that some other kid wishes was picking them up. Or maybe it's just because I have given her the time of day in a way that her Mum does not.

A good friend of mine lives in the same street as this family, and while I'm all for everyone parenting in their own way, would you let your three year old cross the road to play over at someone's house for over an hour before you so much as even popped you head out to see what they were up to? Would you just assume that it was ok to let your child play without talking with the parent in question first? My friend has even arrived home to find this little girl playing in her togs on the (my friends) front lawn in the sprinkler! Mother to be seen through bedroom window, sitting on the bed with back facing outwards yapping on the phone.

I guess when I sum it up, I was right to think that this girl is a bit starved of attention, and it's probably a good thing that she's at daycare at least interacting with other kids and teachers who give her the time of day, because by many accounts from my friend, she may well live in a lovely street, and have parents with money who clothe her in the latest gear, but it doesn't seem like she gets much given in the way of attention.

Go JO!
Posted by GoMummyJo


Comments (3)
GoMummyJo - 2:58 PM on Wed-3-Aug-2011  
haven't mentioned anything to daycare. This particular child gets picked up later in the day. Who am I to judge right, but we all have little gripes from time to time!
Pommiegotlost - 11:34 AM on Wed-3-Aug-2011  
my daughter can be like that, she loves to talk to everyone and show off all her art and toys etc etc and she is constantly asking questions and its not for lack of attention, she gets lots of one to one time reading, playing games etc she just absolutely realishes lots of attention from everyone and because i'm a quiet and shy person i do tend to avoid putting us in situations where there is lots of people around for my own comfort.
luluweezie - 10:25 AM on Wed-3-Aug-2011  
Have you talked to the preschool teachers about this? At our preschool it's always chaos at pickup time, but if the teachers were made aware of this situation, perhaps they would be able to stay more tuned-in to this child's needs, and help to redirect her until her own mum arrives.

We had a kind of similar situation with our older boy a few years ago, where his "best friend" at preschool was a very angry, loud, negative child. Who, of course, glommed on to our sweet, polite, shy (and somewhat passive) little guy. Talk about opposites! I was hopeful that our son might rub off on the grumpy boy, but unfortunately just the opposite happened, and soon our son was roaring at us (or spitting or lashing out) whenever he didn't immediately get his own way. I was friendly with the other mum, and I approached her to see if we could both change our boys session times so they would have time apart during the week, but her schedule wasn't flexible that way. In the end, I changed my boys' sessions for a term but it wasn't enough and they clung to each other even more when they saw one another. We reluctantly made the decision to change to another preschool, even though I was on the committee at the old preschool! It worked a treat though, and both boys have gone on to form new and far more beneficial friendships.

Does it make me incredibly overprotective, that he was only 4 and I was already going to such lengths to keep negative influences at bay???


   
 
 
 
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