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Posted 2:07 PM on Tue-3-May-2011

I work at a Private Training Establishment which offers 2nd chance education... as it happens sometimes both staff and students experience the same joys at the same time.

C is a wonderful young woman and was enrolled into our National Certificate in Contact Centre level 3 rpogramme last year when low and behold much to her surprise, she discovered that she was pregnant again! It just so happened that so was I! In fact our babies (both boys) were due in May 2010.

We went through, morning sickness together, being grumpy over everything, eating all the time and of course getting rounder and rounder day by day... we would catch up for chats, compare bumps and talk about suggestions for names for our baby boys.

My baby boy was born May 2nd 2010 and C's little boy was born the very next day 3rd May 2010.

I was on maternity leave for 7 weeks and C had completed her course and was enjoying being at home with her new baby.

I saw C again a few months ago when she came to visit us at work, when of course we asked how her boy was... it was then that she told me how he had passed away from cot death at 5months old. He had been sleeping peacefully in his cot and when she went to check on him, he was gone.

She and I shared tears as I was thinking about the wonderful ways that my own boy was growing and learning and how it is so unfair that she won't get to enjoy all those things with her boy.

This is in honor of C and little baby O... he would've been 1 year old today.

All my thoughts, prayers and love go out to you C and many, many tears for baby O who has missed his first birthday.

Love you lots. XXX

Posted by MumBum

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krystalmarie - 4:53 PM on Mon-9-May-2011  
a friend of mine went through a similar tragedy, but did not even get a few days with her son.
we were both pregnant at the same time, due just a few days apart and we would talk about how awesome it was going to be to be in hospital together, how we could have play dates together. we even went to antenatal classes together.
unfortunately 2 weeks before our due date, her beautiful son was born sleeping. i went to see her and her son, he was so gorgeous, she wouldnt talk to me. i was still fully pregnant. her heart was breaking and there was me,big and pregnant. she must have thought i was rubbing it in her face. it was hard during the final stages of my pregnancy as she would ask me how i was doing i didnt want to lie and tell her it was great but i didnt want to complain as i felt that i had no right to as i was still pregnant. like C there was no warning, it just happened.
i felt so guilty that i didnt even go to the funeral. looking back now i wish i did, how selfish of me to put myself before her, the grieving mother. i have told her my reasoning and she says she understands.
it makes me cherish every moment i have with my daughter. my heart goes out to every mother whos babies went to the angels early or were born sleeping
MumBum - 3:56 PM on Fri-6-May-2011  
I know Sarah... sad especially when I look at my own boy and think of what she is missing out on... they're having O's first b'day party tomorrow though.
SarahK - 2:19 PM on Tue-3-May-2011  
Ok, im a crying mess now! That is so sad! Though i have been fortunate enough not to loose a child, i have misscarried many a time, and that was hard enough! Thoughts to your friend Mumbum, and perhaps a hug for you too. I found it so hard when my friends baby died this way too, our children were a week apart.

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