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 What is wrong with me!

18-07-2012,2:26 PM      
tasham
Join Date : Nov 2009
Location : pahiatua
Posts : 21



I am happy and satisfied in all aspects of my life except one.
I have been blessed with two girls aged a little over 2 and 8 months who I love to bits. The only thing I am struggling with is more children. My partner doesn't really want any more and is happy with our girls, in saying this he has told me 'if it happens it happens and I'll be happy'but doesn't want to actively 'try'. I'm not sure if it's the uncertainty of this as I would love to be pregnant again and have another baby. I don't feel our family is complete yet and would love to have another baby in close proximity to my girls (call me crazy lol). This is constantly on my mind. Thoughts on getting through this feeling?

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18-07-2012,3:26 PM      
jopukeko
Join Date : Apr 2010
Location : Claudelands
Posts : 168

Nothing is wrong with you. It is perfectly normal. Some people think that you have 2 kids you should be happy. You obviously have room in your heart and your life for more. Hopefully you and hubby can come to an agreement. I know how hard it is when having a child consumes your every thought. Sending you happy thoughts.
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18-07-2012,9:25 PM      
ekubo
Join Date : Mar 2010
Location : Christchurch
Posts : 241

your partner's response doesn't sound like someone who's saying a definite 'no' or taking much interest in contraception.
If you really decide you want another I wouldn't be surprised if he turned out to be amenable. What constitutes actively trying anyway? If you're having sex and not being careful to avoid pg there's every chance that there will be a pregnancy.
The two of you need to talk it through, esp if you're wanting to have another soonish. If it happens it happens is all well and good but it does leave room for incriminations and blame later on. He's got to be accepting of the drains on time, finances, energy etc that another person in the family would bring.
Two never felt right to me either. My dp was adamant that he didn't want any more, it took a year to persuade him but he came round in the end.
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19-07-2012,10:07 AM      
tasham
Join Date : Nov 2009
Location : pahiatua
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Thank you for your comments. My partner is a SAHD and is studying. As much as he loves our girls, he is keen to get out into the workforce next year once he is finished and I think he is worried that having another means he will have to stay home, even though I think I have nearly convinced him it's my turn!
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31-07-2012,4:45 PM      
kymmage
Join Date : Jul 2011
Location : Hamilton
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I just wanted to add a good luck. My last child was a very much longed for baby. my husband was not sure he wanted anymore after our first. I lived with the uncertainty that she would ever happen for 3 years, which was very difficult and it does consume your every waking thought if you aren't careful. 
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