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Nervous for my soon to be 7yr olds party.
Posted 10:18 PM on Sat-1-Sep-2012
Well, my daughter is turning 7 in October and for some reason I'm really nervous...We have been here in NZ for almost a year, and she has settled in so well Im so proud of her, she has made a few friends which is awesome, but she wants a party for her birthday so we are having a pizza party at a local restaurant and she can invite up to 20 of her friends, this is where the problem lies im really nervous that not many will want to come, she still is the new girl and a lot of the mums and dads and children know each other really well and over the last few weeks there has been lots of parties and she hasn't been invited, and i understand why, shes new, there are a limited amount of children at parties etc..but i worry she doesn't understand, school friends is all she has here in NZ, all her cousins and our friends with children are still in the uk, and if i was there now i know it would be a full house.I know this sounds silly, but its been on my mind for a while, my husband rightly said its not the amount of friends but the quality, and my kiwi mum friend laughed and said people don't say no to have 2 hrs child free lol...but it still is in the back of my mind, i think its a more of a guilt thing as we took her from her friends and family and she was the popular one at school, and at the moment she has us and not many others she seems to like the library instead of getting out and making friends, as long as shes happy im happy but i just can help to wonder if she really is happy.Well it feels good just to write that down...
Posted by kymie83


Comments (4)
GoMummyJo - 2:00 PM on Thu-6-Sep-2012  
I can understand what you're saying. My two are either side of Christmas and I fret a little, particularly with The Legend's birthday because he's smack bang between Christmas & New Year - that special time families spend with their own folks. A hard time to get any friends around because everyone is either tied up with visitors or away visiting themselves.

On his 5th birthday, only one of his little boy mates was in town, and one little girl mate, and his sister of course. Thankfully a friend was visiting from out of town with 3 girls, and so that bumped the numbers substantially! He looks at his birthday photos from time to time though and snubs his nose at a picnic blanket shot with 2 boys and 5 girls sitting there eating their party food.

I always wish our two had cousins that could attend these things, but even if that happens one day, they'll be so much younger than our kids, and they'll probably much rather just have themselves.

theboysmummy - 10:01 AM on Tue-4-Sep-2012  
I get nervous that no-one will turn up to my kids parties either - I think it's a 'mummy worry' in general. Maybe your daughter hasn't been invited to many parties because parents are keeping the numbers down and only having 'nearest and dearest'? Perhaps it would make it easier if she invited only a handful of kids that she plays with - that way she would still be the 'centre of attention' on her birthday - whereas in a larger group she might not be paid much attention to? Kids are quite sensitive at this age and she most likely would pick up on being excluded at her own birthday party. Also if you tell the parents they are welcome to stay too that is a nice thing to do (I like to stay at my kids friend's parties - have met other kids parents too which makes arranging for the kids to play much easier). Perhaps since she's turning 7yrs old you could invite 7 children that she plays with (that's what we do except once they turn 10yrs old we crack down on the numbers - nothing worse than five 12yr old girls running around the house let alone a dozen of them :) ) Best of luck with all the 'advice' you receive !
ClaireG - 4:47 PM on Sun-2-Sep-2012  
Maybe she hasn't been invited to many parties because parents don't think about her since she's new. By inviting others to her party it may set her up to be invited to other parties. I agree that most parents would willingly send their children away to parties just to have a break for a couple of hours and I like Julie's idea of the txt reminder!
Have fun and enjoy the party.
JulieKidspotter - 10:21 AM on Sun-2-Sep-2012  
I can understand your nervousness. We emigrated her from the UK 7 years ago and I STILL worry that no one will want to come to my kids' birthday parties. Except, your kiwi mum is right - there's not many who will turn down an invitation to a fun party, especially when the parent gets a bit of child-free time! My kids have not been invited to many parties lately, but most of their invitees usually make it to their parties. A pizza party sounds like fun - just go with the flow, get those invites out and maybe pop in a RSVP card that parents can return where they can put down a mobile number. That way you will be able to send a reminder text a day or two before the party to say how much your daughter is looking forward to sharing her birthday with them - a subtle way to remind them to turn up!


   
 
 
 
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