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Created By: lilmum23
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Topic : Single,pregnant mums
lilmum23 - `10` `2011-02-05 22:53:53`  

Hi im 23, a single mum with a 1 year old boy and and lil girl on the way... Ive got 3 months to go and realy nervious that im not going to cope with two on my own... im starting to struggle becouse i dont have the money to buy clothes for my new one as well as my son, not only that i had to get a nwe pram and its side by side and im not going to be able to take a bus or train, fit into a supermarket etc and i starting to regret the choice of pram after i thourght it was the best cheapest option...

I know im going to sturggle but im scard that im not redy to do this on my own even though i had no choice.. i can not wait for my lil girl to arrive, but its every thing else i didnt think through and not sure how im going to get around etc..

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lilmum23 - 2:53 PM Wed-9-Feb-2011
wow that you for sharing your story, it helps make another day easer knowing that people are will put there words out to help... thank you
SarahK - 8:46 AM Sun-6-Feb-2011

I know exactly how you feel! Just after the birth of my second, i left my then partner. I was in an abusive relationship, and found it extremely difficult to leave. Not only as i was scared that he would find me after i left, but because i was scared about how i was going to survive on my own, with no money and two kids.

It is the best thing i have ever done! It was hard at first, but i made it. We arrived in auckland, with the clothes on our backs, a few spares, my car and a cot. That was it, and i have started from scratch.

You will be amazed what you can do when you have too. I truely was!

I rang around a few local churches and explained my story, and they were so helpful!!! I mangaged to get two bags of clothes (for me, and my girls) for $2! And i even had offers of support. I had furnature given to me for next to nothing, not great furnature, but im not fussy, we had chairs to sit on, and a table to eat at!

I know that starting with a car has helped me quite a bit, so I can't really offer much help in that department. Perhaps, if possible you could find a cheap taxi to take you to do your grocery shopping etc (i know thats quite an expense, so just offing a suggestion in the early days). or just to get you started with grocery shopping in the early days, perhaps online shopping if its available where you live. I did this for a while after the birth of my third baby. The delivery is expensive but i actually saved money doing it this way!! Again just an option, im sure you don't want to be stuck at home all the time!

 I have a double side by side buggy, and although a squeeze, we do fit in the supermarket! (actually it was a real relief to discover this! as i too thought that i was going to have a problem with my double buggy!) Also perhaps if you have a friend or relative that could take you to do your shopping that might help. I know that its hard asking people for help, but once your kids are older, it gets heaps easier to take public transport.

try and think positive. I know its hard, but im sure you are going to be great!

 



   
 
 
 
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