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Created By: goddess588
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Topic : Homework drama
goddess588 - `10` `2012-06-19 14:19:27`  

Mr 12 is in year 8 and every Monday he forgets to bring home his homework book which has the week's homework in it - a spelling list and a homework sheet pasted in.  It's not much homework and he doesn't find it hard but he doesn't see the value in doing it and if it was left to him he wouldn't do it at all.  I've started sending him back to get it (and ringing the office staff so he has someone to go and see if the cleaner has locked the classroom) - we only live just down the road, but more often than not he arrives back without it, making some excuse. Neither of my kids are allowed to watch TV until their daily homework is done, so if he doesn't have his book he can't do his homework and isn't allowed to watch TV and then I have to manage his resulting challenging behaviour (no problems with effective strategies but it gets very tiring, especially since it's unnecessary).

 

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goddess588 - 1:51 PM Wed-27-Jun-2012
Thanks for all the advice.  As it's the last week of term there's no homework this week and I have an extra 2 weeks to consider another approach over the holidays. I'm adamant that he is going to do the homework given, and he's going to bring it home himself - that's part of the responsibility thing.  Very little of the homework set is about 'learning', it's angled at the real world, things like reading a newspaper article, helping make a meal, helping clean a room, doing something for someone else. His teacher writes 'You need to do more' or similar in his homework book when he hasn't completed it.  I'll talk to the teacher about it at the Student led conference next term but he has bigger challenges than this - the class is a boys only class and all of them have a reason for being in this class.
cherrytf - 1:15 PM Tue-26-Jun-2012
Hmm. Tough one goddess588. For our kids, we don't allow them any TV viewing or online/Xbox games until Friday afternoon (and none on Sundays), and only if they did their homework and chores earlier in the week. Thus, TV and online/Xbox games become a reward for them. Hope this helps.
LIVINGLIFE - 7:24 PM Wed-20-Jun-2012
Maybe you could think of a reward he gets for doing his homework for a certain time instead of a punishment or maybe along side the punishment??  It doesnt have to be money but something that will give him an incentive to do it?
Christchurchmum - 2:10 PM Wed-20-Jun-2012
i would suggest talking to the teacher. If between you there are consequences if its not done it would make it easier all round!
GT - 8:20 AM Wed-20-Jun-2012
He seems to feel the homework given isn't right for him. I'm a strong believer in no-homework. Kids need time with friends/family and time to be... well... just kids and too much homework gets in the way of that in my opinion. If the kid really is into school work and home work that is a different matter. It sounds like your child does not like the homework or the homework given, so, i'd be talking to him about it and be a little more supportive to understanding the objection. Maybe working with a the teacher for a different response is needed. Every child is different and blanet homework won't fit for every kid. So make your child make to choice of hokework, something that sparks their interest as a different idea.
SarahK - 2:42 PM Tue-19-Jun-2012

Oh I feel your pain there! My 11 year old forgets her homework book almost constantly!! I ended up emailing her teacher and he now sends a copy of the weeks homework sheet to my email. This way when we get, oh i can't i forgot it i can reply with, fine i print it off the email then :P

I think taking away his tv viewing if its forgotten is a great idea. He is old enough to know about consequences, and that is a consequence of him 'forgetting' his homework.

 

I also know that my daughter is supposed to read 20 mins a day, so there is no excuse there. you could also make up a few of your own spelling words for him. At least this way he is doing some learning after school, in order to get the TV viewing he wants.

ekubo - 2:37 PM Tue-19-Jun-2012

ask the teacher to email it to you at home.

The problem is that when the homework is unrelated to classwork or his specific needs there's not much benefit in doing it. I sort of sympathise with him. BUT you will need to knock this behaviour on the head when he gets to high school as study and homework become necessary  for exams and sometimes just to get through the required material.

Set 'homework time' of 15 or 20 minutes, whatever you'd expect  him to do on a day. If he hasn't got the homework you give him jobs to do instead, something really pleasant like cleaning the loo, or outside where you can't hear him complaining lol. The following day he ends up having to do double the homework.

Balance it out with a reward, an extra 15 minutes up in the evening etc when he does act responsibly and bring his book home.

dayauon - 2:29 PM Tue-19-Jun-2012

i know you're doing your best to encourage him to do his homework but how about the school? do they give detention for no homework? maybe if they have something like this, he will do his homework. never get tired of talking to your kids (just don't make it sound like nagging) of the things that matter and that includes homework. good luck!



   
 
 
 
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