Trying to get my 15 month old daughter back into her own bed and own room is proving to be difficult


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Topic : Trying to get my 15 month old daughter back into her own bed and own room is proving to be difficult

stacleaning - `10` `2012-07-03 00:12:44`

With our first daughter she was always in her cot as soon as she was home from the hospital. We never had any problems trying to get her into her own bed or own room. Yet with our second daughter she is so used to being in or bed. Any tips parents?

stacleaning - 11:07 PM Sat-14-Jul-2012
Thanks, yeah our girl is very independent too. She is actually doing very wel, so thanks for the support everyone. I moved her big sisters toddler bed in next to my bed, she is enjoying it and so am I!!! having my bed back just hubby and I, its great. She wakes once during the night for her cuddle then back to sleep, doing so good :-)

lilylie - 3:53 PM Sat-7-Jul-2012

Can you carry her to her bed when asleep? If she stirs gently say it is time to sleep in her bed. Repitition may be the only thing that will start a new habit.
Our girl is clingy but independent, she comes to me when sick but can then be transferred back to her bed. Dad does it if I am too much of a draw card to her.

When we put our 18 month old in a big bed she loved getting a Thomas Tank Engine pillow and duvet. The themed set worked really well.

stacleaning - 2:58 PM Thu-5-Jul-2012

Thanks everyone. She was in her own bassinet and her own cot for a good while then she got sick and would only sleep/settle with me. I think I will have to try putting her bed next to mine like suggested. I have thought about it and I think it is time to action it.

She is no good at the crying herself to sleep either. She cries and screams herself into such a state she is coughing and making herself sick heheh silly little cutie she is. I think she is at the separation anxiety stage. I stayed a night in hospital with my father when he was ill and I think she has gotten worse from that. Thanks for all your advice. I think I have to stick with it for a happier both of us heheh
THANKS

MumBum - 2:39 PM Wed-4-Jul-2012

Our big boy was a pain because we let him sleep in our bed... what worked for us was putting his bed in our room at first so he was still secure in being in the same room, but in his own bed. We found it easy to just put him into his bed if he crept into ours in the night and there was no crying usually because we were right there!Once he got used to being in his own bed, we moved him to the room across from ours with a nightlight, toys and a big fuss with stories etc at bedtime... maybe its a bit much for her to go from your bed to her own bed in a seperate room?

CamosMum - 1:27 PM Wed-4-Jul-2012

I have lots of experience with this. As new parents this was where we made our biggest downfall and now almost 3 year laters we finally have unbroken nights alone in our own bed!

In the end it came down to me having enough and this was how I did it.... be warned this requires bucket loads of patience, persistence and consistency. I firstly started getting in to bed with my wee man and snuggling in till he fell asleep then I would sneak out to my own bed. Eventually, I then went to lying on top of the blankets and waiting till he went to sleep then sneaking out. Then you just have to establish a wee routine, a story, cuddles with a teddy etc, so instead of me lying on the bed it was now teddy and I sat on the bed so he knew I was still there till he went to sleep. I also used to leave washing on the chair to put away and busy myself in or near his room so he knew I was still there then I would take him to bed and return every 2 mins then 4 mins then longer.

I also had to do this when he woke in the night for a while but now I know it was all worth it when I wake in the morning refreshed and a happy Mum after a big nights sleep.

Good luck!

ymcamtalbert - 10:01 AM Tue-3-Jul-2012

You did not specify if this was happening in the middle of the night or at bedtime. At bedtime we had this problem when our daughter went from the cot to a big girl bed and I would have to do the, "Sit in her room and creep inches away till I was out in hall and then escape" method, until I would be watching TV and find the munchin back out in the lounge. Then we gave up and I moved her bed into her brother's room and she was quite happy. In the middle of the night, I would just go put her back in bed. But, if it was a bad dream i would stay with her and teach her how to go from a bad dream state to a restful one. I would tell her that her Angel spread their wings over her like a mother bird and her chicks and protected her to sleep the rest of the night. It worked.

Pommiegotlost - 9:13 AM Tue-3-Jul-2012

not all babies are alike, my 1st slept through the night at 6 weeks old, she fed infrequently every 4-5hours and would easily go a longer stretch overnight, My 2nd (now 16months) would happily feed every 2 hours day and night and even now she needs food often and if she didn't get enough during the day she will wake frequently at night through the night. And yet they look almost identical and follow similar growth patterns. i always put them in their bed when they are sleeping and go to them when they wake. Maybe holding baby more during the day would reduce the need for cuddles during the night, or maybe put the cot right next to your bed so that she can see you if she wakes or you can just reach through the bars to comfort her.She won't be like this forever and now is the peak age for separation anxiety, this should ease by the time she is 2.

Dibbles3 - 8:07 AM Tue-3-Jul-2012

Hmmm I'm afraid i don't have any experience with this as all my kids slept in their own beds and rooms from the moment we were home from hospital. But I have gone through a stage recently where my then 15 mth daughter was finding it hard to get back to sleep if she woke in the night. I ended up staying in her room until she fell back to sleep. All I would do was give her a little cuddle, pop her back in her cot then sit on the chair I have in her room and stay there (and often fell asleep myself). It's not ideal, but I'm not keen on letting kids cry themselves to sleep. At least this way she knew I was there and that was enough for her to settle back to sleep. It lasted about 2 weeks so was very tiring, but it worked and now she is pretty much sleeping through the night again.

I don't really have any other suggestions, sorry. I guess if you wanted to, you could try the controlled crying technique. I personally can't do it, I'm not strong enough but I guess if I'd tried everything else, I might. Anyway, good luck!

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